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Self-leadership builds trust

September 10, 20231 min read

For the past few weeks I’ve noticed myself consistently skipping my Jiu Jitsu training.

It was in my calendar just like my other meetings. Many times I even had packed my bag the night before. However, when the time came to leave for the training I noticed in the past weeks I’ve consistently given priority to finishing work related tasks.

Reflecting on this pattern I noticed that going to Jiu Jitsu is essentially a meeting with myself.

The observation was that I keep my meetings with others, but am more flexible in not honouring meetings with myself.

Today I got annoyed with this tendency in myself as I noticed it erodes my level of self trust and sense of personal integrity. The arising anger was a signal that I was allowing outer factors infringe on the things that support my well-being and clarity.

Fundamentally, how can I lead others and be a trustworthy person if there are still areas in which there’s an inner discrepancy.

What this experience highlighted for me is that:

  1. I shall be realistic with my time. Squeezing a training session into a lunch break conflicts with my desire to properly eat and nap. From now on Jiu Jitsu is scheduled after work.

  2. Instead of being over ambitious with two trainings a week I’ll do one, play the long game and have the time before collecting my sons from school to relax in the sauna.

  3. The importance of being up front with my priorities, how much I can take on and courageously saying no.

As a friend said at the House of Beautiful Business in 2021: „The first person we lead is the person who wakes up in our pyjamas in the morning.“

Bio-inspired renewable energy engineer | Design Thinker and bio-feedback enthusiast for flow, self-actualisation and peak experiences

Tobias Hofmeister

Bio-inspired renewable energy engineer | Design Thinker and bio-feedback enthusiast for flow, self-actualisation and peak experiences

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I am a certified HRV and peak experience coach. I use bio-feedback technology, in particular heart rate variability (HRV), to enable people to find their flow states, regain health and live peak experience lives. A background in sustainable energy engineering coupled with a passion for spiritual modalities and energy in a broader context has led me to an approach that merges cognitive understanding with embodied experiences. I practices Buddhism and have presented my research globally, among others at MIT in Boston and the DRS conference on Future-focussed thinking.

When I look at the world I see unique connections between people, places and ideas. To me the world is an interconnected, holistic system - the oneness of self and environment.

Over the years and have met thousands of people in heart to heart dialogues when travelling over 50 countries, earning degrees from four universities, publishing a dozen academic papers, presenting my research at international conferences and working for world leading sustainability and digital research organisations.

I have been a contributor to House of Beautiful Business, Mindvalley, Evercoach and other initiatives cultivating new ways of working, fostering entrepreneurial mindsets and creating work cultures and environments that celebrate the whole human being. I view business as a vehicle for self-actualisation and believe that when done from a place of love and compassion that it holds the potential for healing our world.

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